About Kristofer and TLC...
My name is Kristofer Cowles, and I am the author of the Truth, Love, and Consequences blog. I am also the founder of ManHusbandDad™, which is dedicated to reclaiming the family, society, and the world at large. We do this primarily by reminding Men, Husbands, and Dads of who they are supposed to be.
This forum is an extension of that website. It fulfills several purposes: First and foremost, it reveals that I am not the perfect ManHusbandDad and am on this journey myself. My flaws and warts surely show through every word I write. It also allows me to share some insights on the world around us in a manner that can add depth to the thoughts my book, ManHusbandDad – Being Who We Are Supposed To Be In A World That Hates Us.
I make every attempt to keep the articles within the categories of Man, Husband, and Dad and, if I am in the zone, I might get one or two that actually cover all three categories! When what I have to say does not fit any of those categories, they wind up in the IMT2BHO (“In My Trying To Be Humble Opinion”) which is the category I use as an excuse for my more political concerns and general complaints about “If only the world were just like me.”
Much of this blog will make little sense if you are unfamiliar with the ManHusbandDad idea, so I do suggest you get to know it (and me) better by visiting ManHusbandDad.com’s home page or picking up the book once it is available so you’ll know what sort of thinking went into a particular article. Of course you can dive right in and comment all you’d like…my reply may point you toward the MHD website, though, to help in clarifying things.
Please remember the Rules of Engagement when you express yourself in commenting on this website. I hope you will participate- it’s more fun and helpful to my growth (and hopefully others’) as a MHD than just hearing myself talk!
Oh, and yes, this is for everybody – men and women of all bents and exasperations. I come with a Catholic spirit and theology, unapologetically, and your perspective can be nothing but beneficial to the rest of us in this place, at this time. After all, “The way of the fool seems right in his own eyes, but he who listens to advice is wise.” (Proverbs 12:15)
As a reminder, I’m available to speak at conferences, benefits, retreats and other events as keynoter, panelist, seminar presenter, and contributor on the topics ofFamily, raisig children, home schooling, Men, Husbands, Dads and how those who love them can support the formation of a ManHusbandDad. I speak to women’s groups as much as to men’s and mixed groups and people of all faiths and lifestyles. Family life, raising children, Marriage, and the gamut of domestic challenges faced by people today is a part of what I do, and I’m glad for your inquiry if I might fit into your next program or event.
On the personal side, I enjoy writing, poker, a good cigar, Jack Daniel’s, and traveling, but I love being the Husband of Beth and Dada to The Boyz the most! There’s more specifically about me here.
Okay, that’s my story. Remember: Be who you are supposed to be!
But these kids are a different story and what happens to them at the hands of their teachers or in their own homes (as happened to one of my siblings) is the egregious crime that gets filed away as a story in the dark corner of the room that needs light shone upon it.read more
The point is this: The very thing in the brain that is the mark of adulthood and maturity is the thing that is eroded as we view more porn. It is as if the brain is reverting, becoming more childlike. “Adult” entertainment is actually making us more juvenile.read more
Truth is alive and well, and the King of Concupiscence is its standard bearer, screaming it right from the throne room of the Dictatorship of Relativism: The Pornography Industry.read more
God knows our hearts and minds. When a friend of mine killed himself nearly two years ago, I couldn’t fathom the state of mind one has to have to put a shotgun to his own head, let alone someone else’s. Steve killed a man and himself.read more
Those who reject the concept or existence of God cannot, fundamentally, reject the existence of Nature and her desire to exist and create things that persist in existence.read more
By definition, then, any blend or some kind of infinite spectrum of sexualities that may result in some epigenetic cases or through hormonal, cultural, or environmental causes is, by Nature’s design and definition, a defect, because it is not heterosexual.read more
He smiled, mentally patted himself on the back, and went merrily about completing his business, himself firmly secure that he had learned something and made it his because he had taught me something, too.read more
You would not put your family at risk by being unarmed. I understand and concur. And you should not put you and your family at risk of disobeying your bishop.read more
Donald Trump is flawless. Maybe not by design or plan…but his flaws make him flawless.read more
If, for instance, we are not at war, then why are Catholics and every other Christian denomination claiming a need for “prayer warriors?”read more
Islam is not a new enemy to Catholicism. Muslims declared war on the Church nearly 1000 years before the Protestants declared war on Her, and the Crusades to beat back the horde were a constant part of life for centuries.read more
But that’s not because of what he did. It’s because of who he was. ManHusbandDads must BE ManHusbandDads so that when the time comes to do something – and it has – the foundation for DOING is in the BEING.read more
“I wonder at every moment how a person may risk the salvation of their soul for reasons absolutely futile and weak.”read more
How best to be known than by the glory of your own children in the eyes of God and Community? That glory is a simple accolade: Well done, good and faithful servant.
It’s what a ManHusbandDad lives and dies for.read more
By not singling out these radicals, you yourself are actually claiming all Muslims are terrorists. You are the one keeping every Muslim in the same group as their and our collective enemy. It is not surprising when considering that you present yourself as an un-accomplished ideological sycophant cocooned by political correctness and absolved of responsibility by a complicit media and allied elite power-driven political class from both parties.read more
All of a sudden, the inconsiderate jerk was me.
Shame on me.read more
I’ve heard lots of arguments against it, dealing with the safety of women, girls, and children. That argument offends me.read more
As a Conservative or a Liberal, you would do the same. People change their minds. They become more enlightened, or less so, and choose their sides. We take them at their word. Even I changed my mind, having once been a very avowed liberal.read more
ManHusbandDad™ share’s your frustrations with what all parents have to do with their children: Constantly repeat ourselves. We come to a conclusion that we weren’t expecting when we started recording…read more
ManHusbandDad™ is a bit on fire in this one. Ever get tired of being the Man, Husband, or Dad? Get pretty perturbed at how society is treating you? You’re not the only one!
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He went over to the house and left his card on the door and, as he was driving away, Legina drove up. The officer parked his cruiser as Legina and Dante got out of the car.read more
But I was falling into the trap that society has laid for Men, Husbands, and Dads: I was convincing myself that I had been worthless.read more
The debut episode of ManHusbandDad’s™ Podcast, introducing Kristofer Cowles and the ManHusbandDad™ idea and community.
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Husband to Beth. Dad to Kristofer, Andrew, and Nathaniel. That’s what He originally said. I’m just now getting the message instead of trying to improve upon God’s Plan.read more
Every-other generation has a populist who stands up and says he’s tired of the status quo – a status quo promulgated by parties that our Founding Fathers railed against as factions and destructive to the Country they founded.read more
The “logs” were wonky. So much so that they caused the flame to go to one side – at least primarily – and blocked the heat. Let alone to my OCD self they were just un-natural.read more
Maybe making Sunday a day of rest was a good idea, Lord.read more
So we (Mama and The Heir Apparent) attended the first of five six-hour classes called “Basic Teachings of the Catholic Faith” at our Parish. It was nice, because it was a rare moment where Mama, Kristofer or I were NOT the ones doing the teaching!read more
Even scarier was dragging the vacuum back over the same strip and hearing the same thing, as more got pulled in. Desperately hoping I was done, I pushed forward over the strip and there was the noise, a little less but still there.read more
So I celebrated Confession, particularly and specifically for my Wife, Our Marriage, and The Boyz.read more
You see where I’m going with this? And you know why they are nasty, right? Well, there’s only one person who stands up to pee in that bathroom… That picture above is after cleaning, before removal.read more
I’m human, I’m American. I’m Catholic, I vote. I’m a Constitutional Conservative in my ideology. I’m an equal opportunity offender when it comes to analyzing and critiquing politicians and policies.read more
Really, it’s not an excuse. Based on what I did today, the closet just might be a safe place! Just don’t tell the crybabies at the University of Missouri or Yale, or they’ll want to come be safe in my closet…read more
What a picture is worth…read more
It was pretty simple – sausage, ground beef, vegetables, some peppercorns and a rub I like to use for flavor, and some garlic. Then we wait. The crock pot gets to enjoy it for a long time.read more
But I wanted to do it early, also, so that Mama would have me around during the day. Tomorrow is one of her all-day-at-the-Church days for various catechesis and faith formation, so we won’t see much of her before we go to Mass in the evening.read more
I’m not sure if I have more shoes than Mama – but it’s gotta be close. Hmmm… There’s something wrong with that. Gonna get me a Marco Rubio complex…read more
Laundry is a special kind of Hell. I think perhaps Jesus must have gone and done the Apostles’ laundry during those three days. There can be no worse Hell of the Seven I know about!read more
My duties can be anywhere from nothing to everything, depending on what Mama needs or finds out she needs. She goes to work at lunchtime and doesn’t get home until I bring her and The Boyz home usually well after 8:00 PM.read more
So – while trying to be delicate here – I don’t think that the personal space I share with Mama needs to be relegated singularly to my razors and extra deodorant.read more
Part of my goal with #40D4W is to NOT tell Mama that I’ve sacrificed for her. The Lord knows and I know, and she knows when she finds out, but not through my coaxing.read more
I typically get a little perturbed when things get planned without me but I’m expected to follow the plan, and this happens a lot when we go to San Antonio. This time, in light of my goal and my 40 Days 4 Wife attempt, I gave into the time thing and just went with the flow.read more
So I sacrificed my Labor, and probably my ego, to run the gauntlet at the local store just to get blind-sided (there’s another one!) by a baker who says there are no dinner rolls because the oven is broken.read more
Men are naturally inclined to put their best foot forward, or at least the appearance of doing so, in front of their children. Sitting down to write out Goals is an exercise of faith and humility, but it also requi9res checking my ego at the door, so that I can honestly accept the constructive criticism and guidance of my Wife and children during this time.read more
This is where things got a bit un-Catholic.read more
And then the phrase “Forty Days For Wife” popped into my head. I’m pretty solid in the belief that when ideas “pop” into my head they are more often than not nudges from God, so I dwelt on them a bit. Sometimes they are of the Devil, and dwelling on them for a moment gives me clarity on that, tooread more
While one may have discerned family life, career, ministry and other “do” and “be” parts of one’s life, Father Albert points out that God is continually telling you how to “do” and “be” them even better – or even when it is time to change or grow in other things He wants you to accomplish for Him. And Father Albert shows how and where God is talking to us!read more
Edgerton spends eight fairly short chapters debunking that notion, and it made me wonder why it took eight chapters. It seemed pretty obvious by the time I got through the first twenty pages, and I’m not sure I ever needed convincing.read more
Each year we get together as a family and, on January 1, have lunch and write down our goals. We've been doing this for over ten years. We help each other in coming up with challenging goals and, the older the child is, the more independence they have in determining...read more
Those moments when you know you are in the right place, being who you are supposed to be.read more
It’s about as silly as telling a child to go play in traffic so that they will obey stop signs when they are older.read more
Give yourself an honest assessment: Who do you follow?read more
God always answers prayer. Sometimes we have to cry before that happens…read more
A dear friend of mine killed himself as a result of pornography addiction, Mr. Jones. And while no parent should ever have to witness the death of their own child, don’t expect me to shed any tears over Hugh Hefner presiding over the funeral of his own progeny.read more
Exactly why are you here? Everybody asks that question. But have you ever stopped to listen for the answer?read more
Children do not have the capacity to distinguish the difference between behavior and advice if the two are dichotomous.read more
A perspective on what it means in our Marriage…at least what it means in this situation. In Marriage, the situational opportunities are countless.
How do we serve our spouses? My wife teaches me all the time…read more
Can you live in anonymity? The ManHusbandDad is called to do just that…read more
On September 17, 1787 a small band of men, 39 in total, set in motion an idea that was formulated and placed on parchment, eventually circulated among the several states for ratification that would become the law of the land and the beacon of hope for the entire...read more
Sam, whom I met as a patriot, was scared for our future. I have no doubt that he would have given up his well-earned fortune to ensure Liberty for just one more minute.read more
I like things that are hard to wrap your head around. This is one of them.read more
I am in the midst of proofreading my book, How To Dad, so maybe I’m a bit sensitive to this. But since Sesame Street was such a part of my childhood, it matters to me. And I think it does point to a cultural misstep that my own father participated in and I think many,...read more
Claiming to not have a Man, Husband, or Dad in my life ruffles the feathers of some folks. This is my abridged attempt at explaining what I mean, to get the ball rolling on the discussion about what it really means to be a Man Husband Dad. ...read more
Rafiki, in the last minute of The Lion King, says to Simba, “It is time.” It was time for Simba to step up, embrace his position of leadership within the pride, and lead a broken society to a more promising tomorrow. The last seconds of the movie show that that...read more
Here’s the problem: You can’t say, “I don’t want my boy sharing a tent with that homosexual boy,” because then you are discriminating. The BSA will actually wind up FORCING boys to sleep in a tent where everyone knows the attraction for one boy is to your boy. In the name of diversity, openness, and non-discrimination.read more
I have a long row to hoe. It is not easy to hear or see people do or say things that I think I can do or say better. It’s not easy getting my own ego out of the way so that others may do what they do better than I do what I do. And I realized that there is no better example of how to be a man than in the humble decision of our Papa.read more
Do yourself a favor. Pick up this book. You can read it over a week’s worth of lunches. Then start figuring out what you can do, with the guidance of Scott’s suggestions, to bring true Freedom and Liberty back to the hallowed shores of this great Gift we call America!read more
It’s important for him to know that he can be anything he wants to be…we talk about that every night before he goes to bed.read more
“Snrk.” He nodded.read more
Really, the question is not “Why doesn’t God shout?” The question is, “Why does God whisper?read more
You may have heard of this guy named Jesus. You know, Son of God, Savior of Humanity, God Among Us, all that? He was known as Jesus of Nazareth, because that’s where he came from. That’s also the only place he never preached.read more
But in a world where the very devices consumers are engaging each other on start with the letter “I”, it’s important to remember that, though it seems so new, the combat with narcissism is millennia old.read more
The juxtaposition with what he is saying and what he isn’t saying is a tremendous pull on my heart. Everything he said was the difference between his two sets of grandparents.read more
The what? The Magna Carta, or Great Charter, was signed by King John, son of Henry IV and brother to Richard The Lionheart, in the year 1215. Forced to acknowledge and grant rights to the landed barony of Britannia, John wound up reneging on the Magna Carta some half...read more
How do we know we are winning the Culture War? Well, you have to step back and see the forest for the trees. Zoom out on the Cultural Evolution Timeline. Zoom out 2000 years.read more
The last time, my youngest was actually last, and the new kid made a big deal about it guffawing and harping. So my youngest told him that he had always been last in the other times and should be “it” instead of my boy.read more
It probably does not surprise you that pornography built the Internet. Or maybe it does surprise you…? The porn industry is a conglomeration of large production companies, media moguls, and one-time single uploaders. Your neighbor probably has viewed pornography on...read more
Today is Veteran’s Day in America. A Veteran makes a simple decision that takes a lot of discernment. He or she simply says “Yes” to the question “Will you serve your country?” It’s the discernment that goes into the decision that makes a Veteran important. The first...read more
We offer Social Media marketing services to Apostolates through my company, Exposure Strategies. We always provide it below our cost, and we only work with Apostolates. Sometimes we do it for free. In fact most of the time, actually, we do it for free. I get...read more
If Truth is God’s creation, and the Church guides us to God, and if we practice that truth as best as possible, we will become the best we are supposed to be.read more
I get asked a lot, “How do I know if I am being a good Dad?” It’s an easy question to ask, and most folks think it is hard to answer. And it is, until you see where the answer lay. It is family legend that tells of me carrying around a small notebook after I met my...read more