Have you seen the headlines?
Substitute teacher, 40, who had sex with teen boy student while her husband and children were upstairs is jailed again
Language arts teacher, 30, accused of oral sex in her empty classroom with teen boy student
Female coach of boys team faces felony sex charges, report says
Teacher mom, 38, charged in sex romps with six teen boys is now focus of three new lawsuits
Former California gym teacher who had sex with male student could avoid jail time
Christian school teacher, 43, accused of sex romp with teen student
Substitute teacher, 23, accused of having sex with two students, including 14-year-old
Married English teacher, 32, pleads not guilty to charge of booze-filled sex with teen boy student
Teen’s dad busted Texas teacher, 44, having sex with student in car, police say
Special ed teacher, mother of 5 gets 10 years for sex with teen boy student
It’s the same sordid tale, just different players. There are several common denominators, and I am going to pick on two of them:
So I ask again, “Have you seen the headlines? You answer is probably “No,” and that’s the big common denominator.
The media doesn’t talk much about them, though they fulfill the obligation f reporting them.
But riddle me this, Batman: Why, when teachers are some of the most trusted professionals in America, according to Forbes, do we not hear about it? And, more specifically in this heated environment of sexual impropriety witch-hunting, why is there no outcry at this epidemic of obvious sexual abuse not the number one concern of everyone from Oprah to the #MeToo movement?
This is not a rhetorical question. I honestly want to know why this isn’t the big news all the time?
According to #MeToo, I’m a member. I was “assaulted” by the new definition at least twice as a 13 year-old and a 16 year-old.
At 13, a fellow Boy Scout took my hand while I was asleep and placed it under his underwear, causing me to wake up and roll over, withdrawing my hand. I didn’t say anything…but I never shared a tent with Jim Cole again!
At 16, I was a closer during the summer at McDonald’s in Delaware, Ohio. A woman who was some fifteen or more years
older than I worked the closing shift one night with me and a few others and, in my naïve state, was hitting on me all night. When we were done closing, she offered me a ride home (I only lived a block away) and we sat in her car for hours talking, me realizing now she was working up to some goal. When I finally got out of the car as the sun was coming up, she asked if she could kiss me. I felt like that was the only way I could get out of the car (we were parked in the motel parking lot next to my house, some 40 feet from the back door) so I said, “Yes,” and she did. She was a smoker, so that was more traumatic than anything else, but it was still uncomfortable. I worked with her in the future…but I walked home after that!
I told nobody of these two incidents. I solved the problems, didn’t consider them “assault” or “abuse” or “harassment,” and moved on.
I have, however, resigned from the Boy Scouts District Leadership and removed my boys from the BSA after that organization’s insane decision to allow openly gay boys to be a part of the program since that would simply sanction and actively encourage illicit behavior and assaults in tents and put that behavior in a context where an assaulted youth would feel he could not complain or report things like what Jim did to me.
I’m also very conscientious about who my children apply to work for.
But back to the questions above.
Where’s the outrage over these teachers and their behavior? It eclipses any clergy abuse, but you’ll see that shoot to the top of the news sites as soon as it happens.
Those headlines above are not from the last year. They are from the last 12 days!
And people have the nerve to ask me why we home school.
Let’s be honest in our rhetoric, our outrage, and our focus. Let’s look at real problems and solve them. I’m not saying that the #MeToo folks who have experienced situations as adults don’t have a leg to stand on, but they ARE/WERE adults, capable of taking responsibility for getting out of situations and moving on. You don’t HAVE to do acting for a living, either, if the Weinsteins of the world are insurmountable without compromising your chastity.
But these kids are a different story and what happens to them at the hands of their teachers or in their own homes (as happened to one of my siblings) is the egregious crime that gets filed away as a story in the dark corner of the room that needs light shone upon it.
I’m tired of the adults who have the microphone whining about shoe ads being sexual harassment and flirting being akin to life-changing sexual assault.
Grow up or shut up, America. Your problem is not THE problem. While you’re playing the victim card because somebody implied they were sexually attracted to you when you dressed the part, you’re sending your kids off to school to be screwed for the rest of their lives by a sexual predator who has free-reign over them because you choose to send to them without a second thought.
ManHusbandDads need to talk with others about this, and Dads in particular need to Courageously counsel their kids on this, and we need to talk to our wives about the way we both can change the topic on social media and within our circles of influence from adults who are whining to kids who are living in silent fear of their own teachers.