About Kristofer and TLC...

My name is Kristofer Cowles, and I am the author of the Truth, Love, and Consequences blog. I am also the founder of ManHusbandDad™, which is dedicated to reclaiming the family, society, and the world at large. We do this primarily by reminding Men, Husbands, and Dads of who they are supposed to be.

This forum is an extension of that website. It fulfills several purposes: First and foremost, it reveals that I am not the perfect ManHusbandDad and am on this journey myself. My flaws and warts surely show through every word I write. It also allows me to share some insights on the world around us in a manner that can add depth to the thoughts my book, ManHusbandDad – Being Who We Are Supposed To Be In A World That Hates Us.

I make every attempt to keep the articles within the categories of Man, Husband, and Dad and, if I am in the zone, I might get one or two that actually cover all three categories! When what I have to say does not fit any of those categories, they wind up in the IMT2BHO (“In My Trying To Be Humble Opinion”) which is the category I use as an excuse for my more political concerns and general complaints about “If only the world were just like me.”

Much of this blog will make little sense if you are unfamiliar with the ManHusbandDad idea, so I do suggest you get to know it (and me) better by visiting ManHusbandDad.com’s home page or picking up the book once it is available so you’ll know what sort of thinking went into a particular article. Of course you can dive right in and comment all you’d like…my reply may point you toward the MHD website, though, to help in clarifying things.

Please remember the Rules of Engagement when you express yourself in commenting on this website. I hope you will participate- it’s more fun and helpful to my growth (and hopefully others’) as a MHD than just hearing myself talk!

Oh, and yes, this is for everybody – men and women of all bents and exasperations. I come with a Catholic spirit and theology, unapologetically, and your perspective can be nothing but beneficial to the rest of us in this place, at this time. After all, “The way of the fool seems right in his own eyes, but he who listens to advice is wise.” (Proverbs 12:15)

 As a reminder, I’m available to speak at conferences, benefits, retreats and other events as keynoter, panelist, seminar presenter, and contributor on the topics ofFamily, raisig children, home schooling, Men, Husbands, Dads and how those who love them can support the formation of a ManHusbandDad. I speak to women’s groups as much as to men’s and mixed groups and people of all faiths and lifestyles. Family life, raising children, Marriage, and the gamut of domestic challenges faced by people today is a part of what I do, and I’m glad for your inquiry if I might fit into your next program or event.

On the personal side, I enjoy writing, poker, a good cigar, Jack Daniel’s, and traveling, but I love being the Husband of Beth and Dada to The Boyz the most! There’s more specifically about me here.

Okay, that’s my story. Remember: Be who you are supposed to be!

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Is There a Place For The Consecrated Life in the ManHusbandDad Vocation?

Society believes that having sex makes you a man, while in reality, being faithful to Christ’s teachings, including the virtue of chastity, makes you a Man. By seeing celibacy as a gift, not just a dictate by the Church, it frees a man and allows him to remain faithful to his vows, and beget many spiritual children.

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Conclusion: What’s Love Got To Do With It?

This entry is part 7 of 7 in the series What's Love Got To Do With It?

Jesus was faithful to his vows which were the New Covenant shed in His blood to redeem us. Even when Jesus’ emotions weren’t looking forward to the cross, and sweat blood in agony, Christ was still faithful to His commitment to us. We need to be like Jesus and remain faithful to our promises…

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Gender and Beauty – Goodness in the Appealing Nature of a Woman’s Body, the Pinnacle of God’s Creative Beauty

This entry is part 2 of 7 in the series What's Love Got To Do With It?

Since God is Love; we are made in His image and likeness, and are designed to reflect the essence of Divine Love. Because of the Fall, we are affected by Original Sin and have a distorted understanding of what love and beauty means.

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What is Love?

This entry is part 1 of 7 in the series What is Love?

As we can see from St. Paul, St. John, and Pope Francis, love is something far deeper. Love is not some “pie in the sky” concept. The Greeks beautifully divided love into 4 categories.

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Holy Thursday and Evil in the Clergy

Holy Thursday is the first day of the Easter Triduum. Holy Thursday not only commemorates the institution of the Eucharist, but it also commemorates the institution of the Ministerial Priesthood. As Sexual abuse at the hands of priests and bishops has once again come...

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Bad to the Bone Pot Chops

This savory dish is quick and easy to prep if you get all your ingredients together at once. This uses my DAN’s Sweet Garlic Meat Rub™ if you’ve got it, but I include a substitute rub recipe if you don’t.

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How Porn Turns Men Into Little Boys

The point is this: The very thing in the brain that is the mark of adulthood and maturity is the thing that is eroded as we view more porn. It is as if the brain is reverting, becoming more childlike. “Adult” entertainment is actually making us more juvenile.

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An Open Letter to Mr. Obama

By not singling out these radicals, you yourself are actually claiming all Muslims are terrorists. You are the one keeping every Muslim in the same group as their and our collective enemy. It is not surprising when considering that you present yourself as an un-accomplished ideological sycophant cocooned by political correctness and absolved of responsibility by a complicit media and allied elite power-driven political class from both parties.

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We’re Not Gonna Take It Anymore!

ManHusbandDad™ is a bit on fire in this one. Ever get tired of being the Man, Husband, or Dad? Get pretty perturbed at how society is treating you? You’re not the only one!
~35 min commentary (2 tracks)
~12 min music (3 tracks)

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#40D4W – Day 16: Basic Training

This entry is part 17 of 20 in the series #40D4W

So we (Mama and The Heir Apparent) attended the first of five six-hour classes called “Basic Teachings of the Catholic Faith” at our Parish. It was nice, because it was a rare moment where Mama, Kristofer or I were NOT the ones doing the teaching!

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#40D4W – Day 15: My side of the story

This entry is part 16 of 20 in the series #40D4W

Even scarier was dragging the vacuum back over the same strip and hearing the same thing, as more got pulled in. Desperately hoping I was done, I pushed forward over the strip and there was the noise, a little less but still there.

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#40D4W – Day 12: Philosowrapter

This entry is part 13 of 20 in the series #40D4W

Really, it’s not an excuse. Based on what I did today, the closet just might be a safe place! Just don’t tell the crybabies at the University of Missouri or Yale, or they’ll want to come be safe in my closet…

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#40D4W – Day 10: Souper Man

This entry is part 11 of 20 in the series #40D4W

It was pretty simple – sausage, ground beef, vegetables, some peppercorns and a rub I like to use for flavor, and some garlic. Then we wait. The crock pot gets to enjoy it for a long time.

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#40D4W – Day 3: A roll of the dice

This entry is part 4 of 20 in the series #40D4W

I typically get a little perturbed when things get planned without me but I’m expected to follow the plan, and this happens a lot when we go to San Antonio. This time, in light of my goal and my 40 Days 4 Wife attempt, I gave into the time thing and just went with the flow.

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#40D4W – Day 2: This is how I roll

This entry is part 3 of 20 in the series #40D4W

So I sacrificed my Labor, and probably my ego, to run the gauntlet at the local store just to get blind-sided (there’s another one!) by a baker who says there are no dinner rolls because the oven is broken.

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#40D4W – Day 1: Check your ego at the door

This entry is part 2 of 20 in the series #40D4W

Men are naturally inclined to put their best foot forward, or at least the appearance of doing so, in front of their children. Sitting down to write out Goals is an exercise of faith and humility, but it also requi9res checking my ego at the door, so that I can honestly accept the constructive criticism and guidance of my Wife and children during this time.

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#40D4W Explained: Forty Days For Wife

This entry is part 1 of 20 in the series #40D4W

And then the phrase “Forty Days For Wife” popped into my head. I’m pretty solid in the belief that when ideas “pop” into my head they are more often than not nudges from God, so I dwelt on them a bit. Sometimes they are of the Devil, and dwelling on them for a moment gives me clarity on that, too

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Book Review: Saying Yes – Discovering and Responding to God’s Will in Your Life

This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series Book Reviews

While one may have discerned family life, career, ministry and other “do” and “be” parts of one’s life, Father Albert points out that God is continually telling you how to “do” and “be” them even better – or even when it is time to change or grow in other things He wants you to accomplish for Him. And Father Albert shows how and where God is talking to us!

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Book Review: Sick Societies

This entry is part 2 of 3 in the series Book Reviews

Edgerton spends eight fairly short chapters debunking that notion, and it made me wonder why it took eight chapters. It seemed pretty obvious by the time I got through the first twenty pages, and I’m not sure I ever needed convincing.

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Goals, not resolutions

Each year we get together as a family and, on January 1, have lunch and write down our goals. We've been doing this for over ten years. We help each other in coming up with challenging goals and, the older the child is, the more independence they have in determining...

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Pornography killed Playboy

A dear friend of mine killed himself as a result of pornography addiction, Mr. Jones. And while no parent should ever have to witness the death of their own child, don’t expect me to shed any tears over Hugh Hefner presiding over the funeral of his own progeny.

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A Dad leads

Children do not have the capacity to distinguish the difference between behavior and advice if the two are dichotomous.

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My submissive wife

A perspective on what it means in our Marriage…at least what it means in this situation. In Marriage, the situational opportunities are countless.

How do we serve our spouses? My wife teaches me all the time…

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Today is Constitution Day

On September 17, 1787 a small band of men, 39 in total, set in motion an idea that was formulated and placed on parchment, eventually circulated among the several states for ratification that would become the law of the land and the beacon of hope for the entire...

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Shalom, Sam Sharp

Sam, whom I met as a patriot, was scared for our future. I have no doubt that he would have given up his well-earned fortune to ensure Liberty for just one more minute.

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Goodbye Mr. Hooper, hello kid Ritalin

I am in the midst of proofreading my book, How To Dad, so maybe I’m a bit sensitive to this. But since Sesame Street was such a part of my childhood, it matters to me. And I think it does point to a cultural misstep that my own father participated in and I think many,...

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It is time

Rafiki, in the last minute of The Lion King, says to Simba, “It is time.” It was time for Simba to step up, embrace his position of leadership within the pride, and lead a broken society to a more promising tomorrow. The last seconds of the movie show that that...

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Why we are leaving the Boy Scouts of America

Here’s the problem: You can’t say, “I don’t want my boy sharing a tent with that homosexual boy,” because then you are discriminating. The BSA will actually wind up FORCING boys to sleep in a tent where everyone knows the attraction for one boy is to your boy. In the name of diversity, openness, and non-discrimination.

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My empty Seet

I have a long row to hoe. It is not easy to hear or see people do or say things that I think I can do or say better. It’s not easy getting my own ego out of the way so that others may do what they do better than I do what I do. And I realized that there is no better example of how to be a man than in the humble decision of our Papa.

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Book Review: The Five Laws of Liberty

This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series Book Reviews

Do yourself a favor. Pick up this book. You can read it over a week’s worth of lunches. Then start figuring out what you can do, with the guidance of Scott’s suggestions, to bring true Freedom and Liberty back to the hallowed shores of this great Gift we call America!

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